While I was growing up there was never any secrecy to the fact that I was adopted. I can remember my mom telling me that I was she and my dad saw some pictures of babies and said they wanted to have that one - just like getting a new little puppy. I know that wasn't right now but when you are 4 or 5 it was perfect. When I was young I can remember when kids would say your mom is mean to you if she said we couldn't do something and I would just answer no and I know because my mom picked me and your mom had to have you.
When an order came down to kill all of the male babies in the village, Moses was placed in a basket in the river by his sister, Miriam. The daughter of Pharaoh found him and raised him as her own - the first adoption!
Though there are other times where a reference is made to adoption the actual word is only used in the New Testament five different times -three times in Romans and one each in Ephesians and Galatians. Ephesians 1:5 tells us "In love he predestined us for adoption to sonship through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will— ". There are two very special words here and one of course is adoption but the other is predestined. He knew it all along that he was going to adopt us into his family.
Most parents don't have this realization though - moms find out they are pregnant and don't know what to do or dad's find themselves with a baby or child and know they can't take proper care of them. Even with all of this I can't imagine how hard it is for a mother and or father to give a child up for adoption.
Years ago, I wrote a letter to my birth mother on my birthday and posted it in a newspaper in the province where she lived hoping she might see it. I would like to share it with you now and for all birth parents who have ever had to let a child go, I pray this will bless you.
A LETTER TO BIRTH MOTHERS
At this time of year when peoples thought's turn to giving, I would like to thank you for two very special gifts you have given to me and share one back to you.
First, you chose the gift of life. Over all the choices available you chose to carry a baby in your womb that you knew you couldn't keep. I am sure it was extremely stressful and scary among other emotions but still chose to have me. I know there were other options so THANK YOU!
The second gift is equally unselfish and that is the choice to give me up. This allowed me to live in a family with another sibling and two parents who shared their lives and love. They loved me more than words can explain so THANK YOU!
My gift you dear lady is the only I can give you - from the bottom of my heart I THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU for these gifts you gave to me.
Have peace in your heart for what you gave. You did the right thing. Please forgive yourself of any thoughts or feelings that may condemn you for your decision. No matter what the situation was that you found yourself pregnant, it is okay. I am okay and very happy to be alive in a family where I am loved. As a child when I asked about being adopted I was always told I was the "chosen child" You have no idea how special that makes someone feel. Life may not have always been peaches and cream but nobody's is. No matter what the troubles there always lots and lots of love in my home.
So once again I pray that you will have peace in your heart and soul. I will always tell people how special you are for the precious gifts you gave to me. Again, I thank you and God bless you!